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Mom-Shaming

By Summer Hunt, ELS

Mom-Shaming

Learning the ropes as a new mom is tough—and it’s even harder when you have to deal with mom-shaming criticism from those nearest and dearest to you.

Have you ever felt judgmental glances from family or friends when it comes to parenting? You’re not alone: 6 in 10 mothers of young children say they’ve been criticized on everything from discipline to breastfeeding, according to a University of Michigan poll.

What’s surprising? The most frequent offenders are a mom’s own parents, followed by the child’s other parent and in-laws. Moms report far less mom-shaming from friends, other mothers they encounter in public, social media commenters and their child’s health or care providers.

Here’s what moms say:

  • 37% have felt second-guessed by their mother or father
  • 42% say criticism has made them feel unsure about their parenting choices—but it has also pushed them to be proactive and consult a healthcare provider for advice
  • 56% believe moms get too much blame and not enough credit for their children’s behavior
  • Half of those surveyed said they simply avoid super-critical people

Moms get criticism most often about:

  • discipline (70%)
  • diet and nutrition (52%)
  • sleep (46%)
  • breast- vs. bottle-feeding (39%)
  • safety (20%)
  • child care (16%)

Dealing with mom-shaming? Tell your nurse and ask for their advice in the safety of a shame-free zone.

Source: https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2017-06/mmu-pnt061617.php

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Summer Hunt, ELS, is editorial coordinator for publications at AWHONN in Washington, DC, and writer for Healthy Mom&Baby.


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